Linda Pastan, "Unveiling"

[mellicious]

George cemetery
Originally uploaded by Mellicious.

This seems very apropos right now.


Unveiling

In the cemetery
a mile away
from where we used to live,
my aunts and mother
my father and uncles lie
in two long rows,
almost the way
they used to sit around
the long planked table
at family dinners.
And walking beside
the graves today, down
one straight path
and up the next,
I don't feel sad, exactly,
just left out a bit,
as if they kept
from me the kind
of grown-up secret
they used to share
back then, something
I'm not quite ready yet
to learn.

(By the way, the tombstone in the picture belongs to a great-aunt - my grandmother's older sister. Note the dates.)

Comments

[ursulahitler.livejournal.com]

I've lost my grandparents, but otherwise my relatives are all still around. That poem scares the dickens out of me, because for some reason I can so clearly picture myself walking through that cemetary someday, visiting all the grownups. The lonesomeness of it is kind of staggering. Still, it is strangely reassuring to think of them enjoying an eternal sunday dinner like that.

[mellificent.livejournal.com]

There are a pretty large number of my relatives at the cemetery where my mother's ashes are going to be buried, but for the most part they are not in neat rows, they are scattered about in different section of the cemetery. So we don't have the "family dinner" metaphor, particularly. Great-aunt Mildred up there is near HER parents but not the rest of her brothers and sisters. (We did a lot of exploring in that cemetery a few years ago, one day when we were early for a family wedding, and that's where those pictures come from.)

I like cemeteries, on the whole, but I do know what you mean about the loneliness. My mother's family was the center of my world when I was growing up, and they are all dead now. That aspect of it seems to have hit several of the remaining family members really hard (including me).

[ursulahitler.livejournal.com]

Well... nowadays it'd be tough to bury a whole family all together. But maybe the "Our Town" idea is onto something, and the spirits of our late relations get up at night and wander around the graveyard to socialize. That might be better, in some ways. They could go visit each other when the fancy takes them, and then go home for some privacy! There are some relatives you maybe wouldn't want to have RIGHT NEXT DOOR, you know?

Sorry, I'm not trying to be flippant. Just letting the imagination wander a little.

[(Anonymous)]

Hee. No problem, I like that idea.

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